According to Sandra Brown, author of “Women Who Love Psychopaths”,  304 million people live in the U.S. One in 25 people will have the disorders associated with ‘no conscience’ which include antisocial personality disorder, sociopath, and psychopath. 304 million divided by 25 = 12.16 million have no conscience. Each antisocial/psychopath will negatively affect approximately 5 partners with their pathology. 12.16 million x 5 = 60.8 million people!  She further shares, The “60.8 million negatively affected by pathology” figure doesn’t include children harmed. Since psychopaths (and other forms of pathology) are hypersexual, they tend to have lots of children. But even if we just allow for the national average of 2.5 children times 12.16 million psychopaths, we add 30.4 million more affected people. Add that to our 60.8 million people, and the number of people negatively affected by their pathology jumps to 91.2 million people. That article can be accessed Here

I am a survivor of Narcissistic Personality Disorder abuse, a stealth form of Domestic Violence that does not always result in physical battery.  Narcissists engage in a myriad of stealth tactics such as manipulation, gaslighting, intermittent reinforcement, which very often results in trauma bonding of the victim, and very often a case of undiagnosed PTSD or C-PTSD.  Unfortunately, many mental health professionals have not been adequately trained by our universities to recognize the signs.  Simply observing the treatment of Veterans that are afflicted with PTSD, provides a clear picture on where Domestic Violence victims stand in terms of access to competent and effective mental health intervention when faced with such a crisis.   Compounding this challenge, many mental health professionals view Narcissists, Psychopaths and others suffering from extreme forms of Cluster B Personality Disorders as ‘untreatable’.  Frankly, they throw their hands up.

If this is the response by the establishment to the ‘offenders,’ in my estimation, victims stand little chance of being understood or treated adequately.  In my case, the three therapists I tried did not ‘get it’ and were more concerned with their billable hours. One actually in my ‘clinically’ traumatized state attempted to short change me by informing me she could see me for a half hour but would still charge me for the standard 45 minute ‘billable’ hour.  She said this with a straight face clipboard in hand as I unraveled in my seat, unable to get a word out without sobbing uncontrollably possessing even less ability to articulate exactly why I was in such an extreme state of distress.  I presume I should consider myself lucky that another ‘qualified’ therapist was willing to label me depressed and issue a purple pill; however, something inside me led me to believe that I was knocking on the wrong doors.  Fortunately I found help, support and healing through an online forum…but it took a ton of research, a lot of pain, purging and suffering to get past it.  I had every symptom of C-PTSD and was rendered LITERALLY unable to speak for a month, as I sat in my room in a fetal position unable to eat, sleep or function.  Luckily, I never felt suicidal; however, there are victims that do take their lives.  This form of abuse in my estimation is homicide by default.  Those who survive, should equally be given the opportunity to press charges.

This experience I believe has placed me in a position to speak with authority simply because I have first hand experience from the trenches and can vouch that there are little protections in place for victims.  I have also been blessed with the opportunity to eventually moderate on a volunteer basis for the forum I obtained healing from.  This particular forum has a global reach as of last report an estimated four million visitors monthly.  I’ve ‘virtually’ shared and seen it all.  While there are certain protections for victims of domestic violence in it’s physical forms, victims of psychological abuse run full speed into a brick wall when it comes to obtaining support, understanding and justice against perpetrators of psychological abuse.  Because there are no visible signs of assault such as a broken bone, a black eye or other physical proof, the victims have no leg to stand on within the justice system.  In order to convict someone of a crime, there must be tangible evidence.  It is a double whammy when the assault is psychological and the ‘experts’ who would be called upon to give testimony are essentially incompetent.  Yes, I DID SAY THAT…INCOMPETENT when it comes to adequately treating Domestic Violence Victims in Trauma.  I cannot speak in absolutes, to be fair, I have heard reports of good mental health professionals; however, those stories are far and few between.

While it would require an entire ‘Think Tank’ panel to study and dissect the causes of the dismal failure of the United States Justice System and how it handles cases of psychological abuse, and given the bureaucracy that is just a natural part of the way our Government functions, it would more than likely require years of study and funding lost in a conundrum.  Being cynical at this point, I’d expect the defending of  the rights of the abuser by some ‘activist’ who wants to make a name for him/herself  who most likely would find allys in agencies such as NAMI, circumventing this process.  Instead, I shall cut to the chase and attempt to offer a possible incentive to get the ball rolling and everyone on board.   Hopefully that will at least tempt the powers that be to consider such a suggestion.  My proposal could potentially put a dent in America’s Debt Ceiling!  The inspiration for such action is not only my experience and that of millions of other victims, but most impressive, an article I read which highlights changes to the laws in France dealing with the exact same societal plague.  The distinction…France addressed the issue.


According to the above referenced article, “Politicians in France from the left and right supported the passing of a law which singles out “repeated” verbal actions intended to hurt the victim’s rights and dignity or their physical or mental health. As well as a jail sentence, offenders could be ordered to pay a fine of up to €75,000 (£66,600).”

A lab rat could don a “thinking cap” and conclude that addressing Psychological Abuse in the United States with a similar law would not only help reduce societal ills caused by domestic violence, specifically recognizing psychological abuse, but also would benefit the economy.

Since we live in a capitalist society, I shall presume the best language is dollars and cents.  Using the figures and statistics above and doing a little handy dandy work on the Internet, converting 75K EURO into the American Dollar, it amounts to $105,529.46 USD.  If the American Government were to implement laws, enforce them, and bring perpetrators to trial for such offenses, and if we were to continue to assume there are 60 million victims of psychopaths and imagine that EACH victim came forward to press charges,  AMERICA would stand to gain $6,331,767,600,000.00…that is:  SIX TRILLION, THREE HUNDRED THIRTY ONE BILLION SEVEN HUNDRED SIXTY SEVEN MILLION SIX HUNDRED THOUSAND DOLLARS…

While we may have a bit of a cold shoulder towards those folks across the ocean…perhaps in this particular instance, we might just want to take a look at how they solved a problem…and solve a few of our own in the process…

Living in a major city in the United States, I witness time and time again, my city’s attempts to raise funds by going after motorists who park their cars on the wrong side of the street.  While I am sure this gimmick puts a little pocket change in the coffers, in my estimation it is petty.  If America is serious about getting out of debt, and improving the quality of life for all of America’s citizens and future generations, I think this proposal might be one of a number of solutions that might actually help bring us back from brink of total economic decline and do a nation ’emotionally’ good in the process.

Domestic Violence affects everyone…it destroys families, it causes life long emotional scars. Scars that if not treated adequately will carry through generation after generation.  Unhealthy pathology will continue to spread, and with the sheer number of mental health professionals that are not adequately treating victims of such abuse, this problem will only get worse.  Until abusers realize they will be held accountable, until this country takes serious action,  I believe we will continue on this societal downward spiral. Addressing Domestic Violence isn’t just the right thing to do, it is the responsible thing to do, if one has taken the oath to be a civil servant. Most importantly, it is a problem that will require more than Abilify to solve.

It is my hope that the laws as they pertain to domestic violence in all forms and the manner in which they are enforced will be reviewed by those in a position to initiate change.  Brian Thomson in an article entitled:  “Follow the Money” wrote:  “Follow the money,” was the memorable quote from All the President’s Men.  Deep Throat advised Bob Woodward that the key to understanding the Watergate mystery was the money.”  In another context but using the same premise, I urge you…”Mr. President, the key to solving the economy…address Domestic Violence in all forms  $6,331,767,600,000.00 is nothing to sneeze at…and a hefty load of  “change.”


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