In the NPD abuse recovery arena, there is oftentimes plenty of advice. Some of it good, some of it bad – ultimately in my opinion immaterial – I’ve often held we do have the answers and sometimes it’s just a matter of taking a ‘tally’ 3 out of 4 opinions holding the same view wins.
One of the challenges many of us face is that due to the fact the PD was so good at ‘masking’ their true persona, third parties simply cannot relate to what we are sharing. Some at the scent of trouble run away, others will listen for a while and tire then drop off the planet. The recovery process is often a very isolating experience. The isolation is compounded if the pathological was able to alienate you via a smear campaign or some other tactic such as convincing others you’re crazy because you are reacting to the abuse.
Take a moment to read Scott William’s piece below. I believe it will provide validation and supports my opinion that at the end of the day, you really do need to come to your own conclusions. He also shares some other views I have, but if I summarized them, you wouldn’t need to read the article. Moreover, he’s a professional, so go ahead, check him out!